TOMATO / tO-Mo-TO

Recently,i received some compliments that made me think. I was told I was beautiful by one person and sexy by another. These words have different impacts on everyone. I personally, would rather be called beautiful;although i appreciate all compliments. When think of a beautiful person, i think of an [highly] attractive person with a nice personality and a good heart. If a person is attractive but has a terrible personality or a nasty attitude, I don't think that person is beautiful person.Its sort of like a package deal, i guess. Don't get me wrong, though,being sexy isn't just about looks either. Its how you carry yourself. Its having "something about you". Its that mystery, that edge that my friend Carl mentioned in his blog post tonight "What's in word". {Insert long time friend's blog link>>>>>(hahaha) (http://carlscornerstl.blogspot.com). Being sexy is having an air about yourself. So,  this morning i sent a mass text to a handful of friends, because I was anxious to know their thoughts. 

        

  To the ladies: "Would you rather be referred to as beautiful or sexy? Which do you get more?"

  To the fellas: "Would you rather be referred to as handsome or sexy? Which do you get more?


It came as no surprise that women want to be called beautiful; yet we are called "sexy" more often. I wonder why that is? It could be because the guys preferred "sexy" over "handsome" or "fine"; so maybe they believe that's what we like to hear too. Maybe they're afraid of the implications of calling a woman beautiful? Maybe she's  not beautiful? I'm reaching, huh? hahaha 


Anyway, two out of about 20 people that i asked, said it didn't matter, either was fine. They were both women; i was shocked.  Two of about eight men would prefer to be referred to as handsome, but they're called sexy more. The others all prefer sexy; some get their wish, some wish things were different. ;-) 


so, which do you prefer and which do you hear more? 

~XOXO, 

LyfeBytes                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                

Keeping up with the Jones'

When did life become about things? About how much we can make, spend, save, buy, go, etc? When did it become the norm to live above your means... to rack up credit card bills you can't afford... apply for payday advance after payday advance just to have a few dollars in your pocket? Why do we as a society think its necessary for children who cant walk or talk and can barely hold their heads up on their own to have name brand clothes and shoes? They don't stay in them for more than a month, yet WE (because i do this too) shell out $40- $50 for one pair of sneakers; $60-$75 for one outfit, and then spend $250 to have their pictures made in the clothes. I'm not pointing fingers at anyone here, I'm merely trying to find an answer because i do some of the aforementioned things.

I understand credit cards and payday advances in emergencies; but when did a vacation or new shoes become an emergency? I'm going to put myself on blast for just a second, here. I have a SERIOUS addiction to online shopping. I have and still will buy something online before i take care of my bills. Now, don't judge me because i still handle my business and i very rarely ask for help on anything. If i don't have it i go w/out {now}. Maybe because i'm a mother now and i have rearranged my priorities. Maybe because I've grown up some. Two years ago, I would overdraw my bank account to pay a bill because i had shopped my paycheck away... and not give two thoughts about it. Why? Why do i need more shoes than i can wear in a month? Clothes hanging in my closet season after season with price tags on them? it doesn't make sense; yet soooo many of us do it.

I have a friend with perfect credit and when she talks about how she spends and saves, I'm always in awe. Its almost unreal. In my mind, during these conversations, i wonder things like "who taught her how to save?" "is she balling or just good at budgeting?" "is she cheap/frugal/ thrifty?", etc.  i look up to her, but i'm nothing like her. I buy what i want and worry about the rest later.... BUT WHY? I've never been the type to keep up with the latest fashion trends, I wear what i like. so i don't think that's reason. I'm not really into electronics, so its not that. i don't compare myself to other people. I'm not jealous of what other people have. I don't make purchases based on what other people have or are purchasing. So the question remains, why dont I/ we just live with in our means? is it that difficult to simplify your life? Can you live w/out plastic? Is it our own weakness or are we victims of a messy economy?

Talk to me! i'm interested in your views!

~XOXO,

LyfeBytes

Same Pain

Don't you hate it when people say "I never meant to hurt you"? Seriously, whether or not you meant to hurt me is irrelevant after the hurt has been caused. Regardless if you hurt me on accident or on purpose, it hurts the same. and who ever really hurts people on purpose? OK. OK... there are a few evil people on Earth that hurt people for fun, but for the most part, it just happens.

Now that i think about it, unintentional hurt might be even worse. That usually comes from the people you think will never hurt you; which is why it hurts so bad. Its unexpected and unexplainable and unfortunately a lot of time irreversible.

that's all i have on this subject.... pain is pain, no matter how you slice it!

-XOXO,

LyfeBytes