I'm a huge fan of words. You can do so much with them. I was just sitting here thinking about something totally unrelated and i began to think about our country as a whole. How Americans greet each other, phrases we use, abbreviations, slang, etc. So, that will be the topic of today's post.
When someone is sick, friends, family members, and coworkers are so quick to yell "Get well soon", "feel better", "take care of yourself", or something else of that nature. If you stop and think about it, it's silly to say any of those things. We're telling them to get well or get better soon like it's a choice of their own. Like if they had the option in the beginning most sane people wouldn't have just stayed healthy. Telling someone to take care of themself after they are already sick or have been injured comes a day late and a dollar short. Granted, it may mean in the furture, but rarely do I say "take care of yourself in the future so that this doesn't happen again", even if that's what I mean.
Another phrase that i find ironic is "stay strong". We often tell people who have recently suffered a trauma or lost a loved one to be strong, but why? Something very serious, sad, and often times scary just took place; why are we demanding that someone stay strong at what might be one of the hardest times or lowest points in life. Why does that person have to stay strong for everyone else? Who took his/her rigth to grieve with/like everyone else?This is a phrase I've questioned for a long time and actually stopped saying a few years back. After dealing with a few losses and some trauma on my own, i came to find that sometimes falling apart was the best thing for me. A few brief cathartic moments can help you purge all the fear and uncertainty that develop when your mind is crowded with serious issues. Pretending to be strong or forcing yourself to be strong cause more issues; it seems like denying your true feelings about a situation and requiring strength that you just might not be able to muster up could cause a person to deny the situation or just not totally deal with it or accept it. Because I can only speak on what I know, i have began telling people to do what they need to do to maintain during trying times. If that's ignoring the sitation, turn the music up and act like it never happened. If cutting yourself off from the rest of society helps, then isolate yourself to the fullest extent. If it's completely falling apart works for you, then crumble and build yourself back later when your heart and mind are a little bit more clear. People handle life differently and we should take heed to that.
One more thing that I can't explain and try not to do, is to ask someone how they are if I don't really care or don't have time to listen. Doing so gives needy people a false hope, that says "someone really cares". It can make someone think they have a friend, when in actuality they don't; and you were just saying/doing what you thought you should at the time. I speak to just about everyone. Occassionally, I will ask how you are or what's been going on, but only if i really care. It seems only right.
This isn't the complete list of things i'd like to discuss, but I don't want to bore anyone, so i'll leave you to think about more on your own.
~XOXO,
LyfeBytes
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